Before the year starts to get away from us, as we know it is prone to do, I wanted to wish you a Happy New Year and all the best for whatever you choose to create for yourself in 2017. Whether that be coming out of the closet, beginning to explore your sexuality, or maybe even deciding that staying in the closet for another year might be best for you. Whatever your decision, I wish you the best.
I also wanted to share a little technique I use that I think is better than goal setting or New Year’s Resolutions. Instead, let’s set intentions. These work really well when you’re going through the journey of exploring your sexuality and coming out of the closet.
Now you probably are thinking, “Well what’s the damn difference?” Not much, but for me I’ve found intentions much more powerful.
Intentions, as I define them, are things I choose to experience, do, or live by. Goals, are outcomes or results I wish to achieve. Again, you could argue they are very similar, but here’s how I make this work.
For example, in 2017 I intend to experience less stress and more peace. Those are only a couple of my intentions. and here’s the formula I use to set this new year ball in motion.
STEP 1 – Set Your Intentions
Remember intentions are things that you desire to experience, do, or live by. Don’t worry about the goals, we will get to those in just a moment. As another example, I also intend to be less judgmental and more interested in others this year.
STEP 2 – Define Your Goals
Yay! Here come the goals. Alrighty. This next step is about creating goals that support your intentions. For instance, in order to be less stressed and more at peace my goals are to increase my income by 15%, stop comparing myself to others unnecessarily, and be more in the moment rather than in the future or in the past. I will define these goals to be more measureable, but I think you get the drift.
STEP 3 – Clearly State What You Wish To Experience and Why
This final step is critical in my opinion for making intentions come to life and to inspire your goals to be achieved. Clearly state, define, express what you want to feel when your intentions are met and your goals achieved. Not only do I wish to experience less stress and more peace, but when that happens I will feel more relaxed, happy, and connected to myself and others. And the reason why I want to experience that is so that I can be more in the good of life than spending my energy trying to create life. My other why is so that I can let the Universe (God) take over the master plan.
So there you have it. My little intention setting and goal getting gift to you as you end 2016 and embark on 2017. Oh and one more thing. I’ve been reading Gabby Bernstein’s new book, The Universe Has Got Your Back and one of my big take aways is to approach everything with JOY…even the shit storms of life.
Happy New Year & Many Blessings
The Coming Out Coach and Host of The Coming Out Lounge